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The Power of Sincere Apology

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People inadvertently hurt others through daily interpersonal interactions. In such situations, sincere apology eliminates any hurt feelings.  Unfortunately, some people are of the view that when you apologize, you admit your guilt which is a threat to your ego. Others also hold the view that admitting your wrong is a sign of weakness that renders a person less powerful.  Even though it is in our human nature to protect the ego, justifying our behavior could lead to further complications which affect self-identity. W hen your actions or inactions cause someone great harm, real emotional distress, or significant inconvenience, there is the need to render sincere apology to garner forgiveness and alleviate the guilt felt. F ailing to do so can mare healthy relationships.   During conflict resolution, rendering sincere apology is an indispensable tool that can heal wounds, bind broken hearts and heal relationship stress. As Guy Winch, a psychologist and author of Emotional...

Achieving Your God Given Goals

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God has called us to make the best out of the time, talents and treasures entrusted into our hands. As Christians, we feel the need of belonging and the ability to see progress in our lives since God has a purpose for us . From Jeremiah 29:11, God’s word expounds that “ For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” It therefore behooves on us as Christians to acknowledge the fact that we cannot achieve our goals without God’s intervention. Having a God-given goal for your life is essential in achieving success.   Man’s plans will never be successful unless God whose purpose is unchangeable governs it. The subordination of our plans to the wise counsel of God, constitutes the only sure foundation for one to achieve success.  It is only when we make God's will our will, that we can avoid perpetual disquietude and disappointment. Proverbs 19:21 asserts that “there are many plans in a man's h...

Infatuation or True Love

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In recent years, marital breakdown has become proliferating with divorce rates worryingly high. It is devastating to acknowledge the fact that marriage that is blessed with the best reception has to be separated. Statistics have proven that a number of marriages and relationships are at the point  of crumbling. Other couples are also enduring the marriage relationship instead of enjoying it. One of the reasons could be couples rushing to have a marriage blessed, perceiving infatuation to be true love. What then is infatuation and true love? The Cambridge Dictionary defines infatuation as having a very strong but not usually lasting feeling of love or attraction for someone or something. True love on the other hand is a perfect romantic love between people. Infatuation about partners require no thoughtfulness since there is quick attraction; perceiving things will work perfectly based on physical appearance. True love is seeing into a person’s character and identifying strengths and...

Deleterious Effects of Internet Addiction Among Students

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The proliferation of the internet has significantly impacted the way in which students use new media. The use of internet is not alien to students but rather an accepted practice. Once confined to a computer, laptop or mobile phone with internet accessibility, students are able to explore over a wider range. In recent years, new media and the internet have affected how students associate and interact with each other globally.  Students have greater autonomy overtime where communication is no longer limited to certain times. Students now have access to global ideas in their pursuit of academic excellence. Internet has greatly impacted communication and culture through increasing interpersonal communication, assisting students to reach friends regardless of time and distance. The growing dimension on the use of the internet among students cannot be over emphasized. The advancement in new media through the use of the internet has greatly educated students to a wider world of...

Marital Conflicts: Causes and Resolution

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Marriage, an institution ordained by God is an intimate union and equal partnership between a man and a woman who derives affection from each other. The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion where interpersonal relationship exist. Marital conflict among couples is inevitable with divorce, a common experience in our culture. In actual fact, conflicts between married people are not necessarily destructive since they provide valuable clues that show the growing edges of the relationship and the areas that need to be worked on in making it richer and deeper. Conflict, an inevitable fact of life, refers to the opposing ideas and actions of different entities which results in an antagonistic state or the disagreement between people due to perceive incompatible goals. As couples progress deeper into their relationships, it is inevitable that opinions, feelings and wants ...

Succeeding In The World of Life

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Most people glide through life under the tacit assumption that things will happen as expected forgetting that life has its own dynamics.  Inevitably, issues ensue that derails plans exposing risks, doubt and dangers of our lives. You may be ensnared by the vicissitudes of life.  Unless you are winning, life will seem hideously unfair to you. Some people are of the view that life should be fair because they deserve the best.  The truth is that life is just playing by different rules since our idea of fairness are not actually obtainable; portraying a cloak for wishful thinking. Whether to succeed or fail in life do not occur accidentally but rather bothers on matters of informed choices. Therefore every step taken must be well thought of and planned in order to succeed in the world of life.  It bothers on the fact that before one can succeed, a number of factors has to be considered. Success is something almost everyone wants, and many spend a lifet...

Turn Down The World’s Volume

There is nothing devastating than trying to concentrate on an important assignment while struggling to tune down loud noise from the neighborhood. In such critical moment, what comes to mind is to grab a remote control and turn down the volume of the outside noise if possible. From the television to the radio and to the social media, the world’s volume is loudest. It is an undisputable fact that we live in a world where so many voices are craving for our attention as Christians. Our minds are filled with noise from unresolved issues. Throughout the day, we battle with distractions and stress such as exhaustion, depression, fear, anger and anxiety. In the midst of these voices, it is easy to miss the true voice of God that matters most. Hearing from God amidst these loud noises can prove challenging even to the most organized person. It is therefore important to pull away from this devastating noise from the outside world and listen to the voice of God. Christianity today is...